SELF-CONTROL
Self control is learning how to respond not react. It is the ability to manage your actions, feelings and emotions. Self control plays a major role in your emotional happiness. Self control can help stabilise and solve trust issues in a relationship or marriages. As a parent, sister, brother, aunty someone breaks your phone would you respond or react? A person comes and tells you lies and you discover the truth later; would you react or respond.
SELF REFLECT: Do you have self control? The word of God tells us to exercise self-control by disciplining our bodies (1 Cor. 9:25–27) and that caring for our physical bodies is important (1 Tim. 4:8; 5:23) Galatians 5:22-23, The spirit produces love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, humility and self control.“
Self reflection question: Every fruit always has a season:
What fruit are you harvesting each season of each year? Is it a good fruit or a bad fruit? Are you making time for yourself alone? The reason I have put my fruits into a bowl is to demonstrate self control from my understanding according to the arrangements in the Bible. Self control is last.
“EVER WONDER WHY?”
The bowl represents self control, it is a bowl where all the fruits sit in.
To be “loving”, it requires self control
To be “humble”, it requires self control
To have “peace”it starts within you and it also requires self control.
To have “joy” it requires self control
To have self control it is important to put on the full armour of God which means putting on Jesus, who will help us to have self control within ourselves.
SELF REFLECT:
Is your life out of control or in control?
Is your life being controlled by people or you or by God?
There are so many desires that can control us the likes of wanting;
To be accepted by others (Romans 2:29)”a changed heart seeks praise from God not from people”.
To be loved by others(Jeremiah 31:3)”I have loved you with an everlasting love“
The need of wanting to compare your achievements with another person(that is competition) Galatians 6:4) “Do your own work well and then you will have something to be proud of, but do not compare yourself with others' '. (Proverbs 16:3) “Commit your works to the Lord, and your thoughts will be established.
Seeking happiness in others
Finding joy and peace in controlling other people.
As individuals we need to learn self acceptance. It is the act of accepting yourself and Knowing that the Bible says in Psalms 139:14, I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Ephesians 2:10 also says you are God’s masterpiece. Accepting yourself is saying yes to accepting Jesus because Jesus is in you. You are his masterpiece and he loves you unconditionally. Also we have to learn to be grateful for what the Lord has already blessed us with. We should not live a life of competition but let’s live a life of appreciation